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| Date of Birth | 7/2006 |
| Date of Death | 7/2006 |
| Visitors | 2,668 since 02/03/2007 |
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Thomas Dunstan (Tom) Passed away on the 8th of July 2006, he was born prematurley at 22weeks. He has
a big brother Jacob and a baby bean also lost in the same pregnancy at 12 weeks.
Tom passed away due to several reasons. At 12 weeks when i lost the first baby bean, the placenta
was thought to have been infected then. The reason the placenta started to detatch was due to it
being infected, and i carry Group B strep, which was the infection.
I was in a slow labour for about 5 days without really realising, and my waters had gone too, i
thought it was just a lot of blood.
I was in Full labour for over 24 hours and was passing in and out of conciousness.
I remember him being born, i was alone.
My partner had to stay home with our first son Jacob. The midwives had dissapeared and he just
"popped" out.
I screamed and they came running in, he was trying to breath and his heart was still beating but
they did nothing, just scooped him up and i fell back asleep instantly. My blood pressure had dipped
seriously low.
When they brought him back in he was dressed in a little blue cardie, some volunteers make for the
hospital and a tiny hat and blanket. I couldnt stop crying and couldnt bare to hold him which i
regret.
The xrays concluded he had a birth defect , fused ribs.
When he was born after a traumatic and long labour, he was still alive, the doctors refused to resus
him as he was too small.His heart was still beating and he gasped for breath.
He has left behind a big brother, and a heartbroken Mummy and Daddy.
Tom will be resting with his great granddad now, who sadly passed away when i was younger.
Tom meant the world to us, and i wish i had done more to prevent what happened.
Mummy,Daddy and big brother Jacob miss you loads and will never forget you. x x x x x x x x
so sorry for your loss, my daughter olivia was born early too and had a big fight for life she made it but unfortunately i lost her on xmas day to cancer. my thoughts are with you all xx
My Mum is a survivor,
Or so I've heard it said.
But I can hear her crying at night,
When all others are in bed.
I watch her lay awake at night,
And go to hold her hand.
She doesn't know I'm with her,
To help her understand.
But like the sands on the beach,
That never wash away...
I watch over my surviving mum,
Who thinks of me each day.
She wears a smile for others...
A smile of disguise!
But through Heaven's door I see,
Tears flowing from her eyes.
My mum tries to cope with death,
To keep my memory alive.
But anyone who knows her knows,
It is her way to survive.
As I watch over my surviving mum,
Through Heaven's open door...
I try to tell her that angels,
Protect me forevermore.
I know that doesn't help her...
Or ease the burden she bears.
So if you get a chance, go visit her...
And show her that you care.
For no matter what she says...
No matter what she feels,
My surviving mum has a broken heart,
That time won't ever heal.
angel mum's
Angel Mums
We have shared our tears and our sorrow,
We have given encouragement to each other,
Given hope for a brighter tomorrow,
We share the title of grieving mother.
Some of us lost older daughters or sons,
Who we watched grow over the years,
Some have lost their babies before their lives begun,
But no matter the age , we cry the same tears.
We understand each others pain,
The bond we share is very strong,
With each other there is no need to explain,
The path we walk is hard and long.
Our children brought us together,
They didn't want us on this journey alone,
They knew we needed each other,
To survive the pain of them being gone.
So take my hand my friend,
We may stumble and fall along the way,
But we'll get up and try again,
Because together we can make it day by day.
We can give each other hope,
We'll create a place where we belong,
Together we will find ways to cope,
Because we are Angel Mums and together we are strong!
thinking of you xxx
To Mummy From Heaven
Mummy, don't cry, 'cause God is holding my hand
and telling me everything is OK.
Mummy, God said that I will never want for anything
and I will still feel your love all the way up here.
Mummy, you should see me,
I am running and playing with God's other children.
Mummy, guess who helps watch over us while we play?
They are God's Helping Angels!
Mummy, I'm not afraid, my grandpa is here.
He came to me when it was dark and held my hands;
then we went to God's bright light,
where Angels were singing.
Mummy, God said, If you feel sad, to remember this;
I'll be the gentle breeze that brushes your face,
the sun is my smile and the rain is me washing away your pain.
Mummy, I have to go now.
I send you all my love on the wings of an Angel.
xxx
Don't Be Scared,
The angels only took you cos they wanted a special child, and what they got was a VERY VERY special child i hope they know how lucky they are!!... x x x
When you feel a gentle breeze
Caress you when you sigh
It's a hug sent from Heaven
From a loved one way up high.
If a soft and tender raindrop
Lands upon your nose
They've added a small kiss
As fragile as a rose.
If a song you hear fills you
With a feeling of sweet love
It's a hug sent from Heaven
From someone special up above.
If you awaken in the morning
To a bluebird's chirping song
It's music sent from Heaven
To cheer you all day long.
If tiny little snowflakes
Land upon your face
It's a hug sent from Heaven
Trimmed with Angel lace.
So keep the joy in your heart
If you're lonely my dear friend
Hugs that are sent from Heaven
A broken heart will mend.
God, Take This Child....
By Nancy Scott
Sweet child whom we never really got to know,
It’s hard for us to let you go.
We waited and we wanted you.
We had so many dreams for you.
We think of smiles we'll never see.
We think of events that will never be.
There will be no first steps and no first teeth.
There is only a void and our own grief.
We planned to take you to places far and near.
We yearned to keep you safe and free from fear.
We hoped to show you much of your new world.
We wanted to teach you as your life unfurled.
It’s hard to understand why you, our baby, died.
We feel so numb right now, many tears we’ve cried.
We have so many questions and no answers seem to come.
We tried so hard to save you; nothing could be done.
God, we stand before you broken-hearted
and ask you to heal these lives that must be parted
from this little one we can no longer hold,
who will always be a part of us, even when we're old.)
God, take this child in your loving arms.
No more can he suffer any harm.
Bless him always and bless us too.
Be with us and help us to make it through.
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